what white privilege actually is: you will never experience any racism or racist comments that are genuinely dehumanizing, harmful and challenging to your identity, and any sort of "reverse racism" that you might face such as a PoC calling you a "cracker" is 100% justified thanks to all the fun your ancestors had with enslaving, colonising, and killing millions of PoC
"Since the notion that we should all forsake attachment to race and/or cultural identity and be ‘just humans’ within the framework of white supremacy has usually meant that subordinate groups must surrender their identities, beliefs, values, and assimilate by adopting the values and beliefs of privileged-class whites, rather than promoting racial harmony this thinking has created a fierce cultural protectionism."-bell hooks | killing rage: Ending Racism (via sinidentidades)
The Problem When Sexism Just Sounds So Darn Friendly…
By Melanie Tannenbaum
Something can’t actually be sexist if it’s really, really nice, right?
I mean, if someone compliments me on my looks or my cooking, that’s not sexist. That’s awesome! I should be thrilled that I’m being noticed for something positive!
Yet there are many comments that, while seemingly complimentary, somehow still feel wrong. These comments may focus on an author’s appearance rather than the content of her writing, or mention how surprising it is that she’s a woman, being that her field is mostly filled with men. Even though these remarks can sometimes feel good to hear – and no one is denying that this type of comment can feel good, especially in the right context – they can also cause a feeling of unease, particularly when one is in the position of trying to draw attention towards her work rather than personal qualities like her gender or appearance.
In social psychology, these seemingly-positive-yet-still-somewhat-unsettling comments and behaviors have a name: Benevolent Sexism. Although it is tempting to brush this experience off as an overreaction to compliments or a misunderstanding of benign intent, benevolent sexism is both real and insidiously dangerous.
What Is Benevolent Sexism? Why is Benevolent Sexism a Problem?
What happens when there is a predominant stereotype saying that women are better stay-at-home parents than men because they are inherently more caring, maternal, and compassionate? It seems nice enough, but how does this ideology affect the woman who wants to continue to work full time after having her first child and faces judgment from her colleagues who accuse her of neglecting her child? How does it affect the man who wants to stay at home with his newborn baby, only to discover that his company doesn’t offer paternity leave because they assume that women are the better candidates to be staying at home?
At the end of the day, “good intent” is not a panacea. Benevolent sexism may very well seem like harmless flattery to many people, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t insidiously dangerous.
"Traditionally, boys who play with dolls were scolded, stripped of their dolls and handed some trucks, their parents terrified of their son showing signs of femininity. Now, as transgender identities become more visible, select parents respond to their sons playing with dolls in a different way, assuming that their child’s interest in traditionally feminine toys makes them transgender or qualifies them as a girl trapped in a boy’s body. So-called progressive individuals are jumping on the “transgender bandwagon,” without realizing that their tolerance (and even support) of what they perceive as “transgender” might actually be a destructive reinforcement of an arbitrary gender binary."-
Some Boys Like Dolls: Deconstructing the (Trans)Gender Binary — Lucas Walden (via klutzygeek)
that’s why it’s so important that we make it known that there isn’t one single formula for being trans*. i’m a trans man and you know what? i LOVED barbies! i loved dollhouses! my mom was convinced i was going to swallow a polly pocket one day and die! girl toys were a-okay with me. but i’m still a boy.
that’s why you can’t assume that a boy who plays with dolls isn’t really a boy.
there isn’t a right way to be trans* except to identify as a gender other than that which you were assigned at birth. that’s it.
"Men and women are misogynistic for different reasons: men to marginalize women, and women to ingratiate themselves with the men trying to marginalize them. Neither one is justifiable, but one is oppressive and the other is a (bad) strategy to deal with that oppression. One thus sees that if the men who are misogynists weren’t, the women who are misogynists wouldn’t have any reason to be. Ergo, exhorting women to stop being misogynists so that men will stop gets it precisely backwards."-http://www.shakesville.com/2010/01/feminism-101.html (via pomegranateblood)
Young Teenage CEO Earning Over 100K Per Year!
17 year old Leanna Archer turned a family recipe into an international company. Archer started a line of natural hair and body care products when she was nine years old. Her mother would make a hair pomade using natural ingredients from Haiti and a secret recipe passed down from her great-grandmother. After getting multiple compliments on her hair, Leanna gave her friends a few samples of the pomade and from there the orders started pouring in. Archer is now making history earning an annual revenue of more than $100,000 per year.
As a young entrepreneur, public speaker and philanthropist. Archer has taken her experiences on the road, speaking to youth all over the country, and has been profiled in Forbes, Success Magazine, Ebony and other publications. She has been named on “Inc.” magazine’s 30 Under 30 list of top young entrepreneurs.
Check out her appearance on The Jeff Probst Show.
Image and commentary via African-American History Is AMERICAN History.
love love LOVE this! #BlackGirlsForever
Carrie Meek wore this prophetic t-shirt in the House chamber. She was later elected to the Senate and then to the U.S. Congress. Meek was the first African American women to be elected to the Florida senate. She was a 1992 Florida Women’s Hall of Fame inductee.
"I consider throwing in the towel. The lack of respectful coverage, the slut-shaming and name-calling, all the girly book covers and not-my-titles despite high literary aspirations, has worn me down, made me question everything: my abilities, my future, my life. This is what sexism does best: it makes you feel crazy for desiring parity and hopeless about ever achieving it."-My So-Called ‘Post-Feminist’ Life in Arts and Letters | The Nation (via oldfilmsflicker)
We are supposed to believe that not only must we be continuously striving for that good body, we must also display that we are fighting our natural bodies and conforming to gender roles, age roles and above all else we must be sexy to unknown dudes.
If we are not fuckable, we are not to be seen in our swim suits in public.
If we are seen, we are to understand that it’s okay for strangers to take pictures of us to make fun of us on the internet, if you are famous you are fodder to be absolutely ROASTED if you don’t look like the retouched photos of yourself in magazines. We are to understand that the onus of having peace or being allowed to be seen in public in a swimsuit and not have it be a traumatic or abusive experience is on us and our bodies." -I break it down about swimsuit bodies, shame and other bullshit we need to not buy into. TW I suppose for mention of dieting, weightloss and eating disorders. Read it here. (via nudiemuse)
“not natasha,” a photographic essay on eastern european sex trafficked slaves by dana popa
if u think my constant vocal feminism is annoying imagine how annoying the patriarchy is to me
A catcall is entirely about reminding you that you are not yours. The purity myth is entirely about reminding you that you are not yours. The fetishization of female purity in a world where catcalls are an acceptable form of communication telegraphs one thing very clearly:
“Women, stop sexualizing yourselves—that’s our job, and you’re taking all the fun out of it.”
The sexualization of women is only appealing if it’s nonconsensual. Otherwise it’s “sluttiness,” and sluttiness is agency and agency is threatening." -
“Female ‘Purity’ is Bullshit”, by Lindy West (at jezebel.com)
I FUCKING LOVE LINDY WEST. SHE’S FROM SEATTLE AND SHE’S DA BEST.
^ Perfectly sums up why slut shaming is a load of misogynistic bullshit <3
And why these pathetic, limp dicked little weaklings need to get it through their dense skulls that we don’t give a fuck if they don’t like us ‘Dressing/acting like sluts’
We don’t give a fuck what they think/feel about us doing ANYTHING for that matter
The only person whose opinion of the way I dress/behave matters to me is MINE
- women don’t exist for the sole purpose of being beautiful for men
- women don’t exist for the consumption by men
- women don’t exist to fuckin please you
- women are not meat
- women are not items
- women are not a commodity
- thanks bye
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